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Hello, my name is Laszlo Karafiath, I am 44 years old, and I am a conscious leader. My purpose is to lead more leaders towards more consciousness.
Okay, so what does that really mean?
For me a leader is...
"I simply can't take time away from work. I am too important! I have too much to do!"
Well, you are wrong! I know it because I was just as wrong when I was thinking the same things. Back when I was doing my 7-day workweeks of 16-hour workdays at one of my startups. And I would crash and burn if I didn’t take time off.
“Something prevents me to live as I want to live” - exclaims Liza. She is a very successful and super smart UX designer in her late 30's.
“Like today in the morning: I wanted to go to the gym, but there again was that part of me saying take it easy, lets look at more emails, maybe check Facebook... just take your time, don't do anything… Lets just do nothing, that is the best!”
“Oh no… do we really have to go back to my childhood to fix this?” “Can’t we do this any other way?”
I often hear this, like now, when we sit down to set leadership goals for my CEO client. She feels she could bring a lot more out of her team. In our session the obstacles show themselves and they too originate in her childhood.
Early negative programming happens, well, early. But why? How can messages stick with us for decades?!
"When you sing root your feet down and touch them with an energetic touch. This is your trigger to be brave! Have fun! It's like a party!" - This is my client Vivienne's inner singer who we contacted in a session. Vivienne is a beautiful petite woman and her inner singer is a big black African-American lady, her name is Betty. She goes on: "You are singing for the people you love. It's not hard... this if FUN!"
My client has stage fright....
"I don't have the time for silly ideas. Fuck me. I need you to execute. Do you understand me?"
Meet Thomas. This is how he speaks to his employees at his startup.
After our first session, we get access to the many voices inside of Thomas, we meet Glum Thomas, who regrets these sorts of impatient outbursts. But Glum Thomas is incapable of stopping Commander Thomas from telling off his employees whenever he feels like it....
"My husband will either go crazy, divorce me or both. To be honest, I get it. I nag him. Incessantly. I am unbearable, really.
"But you know what? That’s just me. That is just how I am. It's tragic, I suppose -- but I guess he's gotta to learn to live with it or get out." -- explains Jackie with a sad smile on her face.
“I have never been single in my adult life! Not even for a one day!” - says Juliet, my new client. She's just listed ‘summoning the willpower needed to dump my boyfriend of three years’ as one of the goals of our sessions.
“I am on the bottom of his priorities. His career. His family. Drinking with his buddies at the ballgame. Even his dog. They're all more important than me."
"Don't lie to me! I know you pawned the diamond earrings your mother gave you. You wouldn't have had to do if you didn't spend money like water. Both our salaries are small, and now, you want to borrow money from your father too? STOP SPENDING MONEY WE DON'T HAVE, GODDAMNIT!"
Welcome to a familiar scene from my childhood home. Picture me as a quiet twelve-year-old in pajamas with my ear firmly pressed to the kitchen door as my father berates my mother.
My bank account is healthy. I have nothing urgent to do for the next six months. And I've got a brand-new Harley-Davidson RoadGlide Custom in my garage begging me to take it out for a spin across the Golden Gate Bridge. Yet I can't.
"Get back to work, you lazy piece of crap."
Meet the voice that has been in my head for as long as I can remember...
If you have experienced how destructive your inner voices can be then you can imagine how powerful allies they could be - if only they were on your side! Our voices in our mind are there for a reason. They are our sub-personalities; Jungian archetypes with important messages. They want to support us but if they are not heard out they can be disturbing. We all have developed ways of arguing with the voices every day. Now we know that does not help.
Instead of arguing we can find a way to make peace with them by using co-creative meditation. This technique works with guided relaxation where we listen to your inner voices one by one by accessing the...